If we just notice the things that bother us..cause us emotional responses ..and if we have the skill sets to clear those then Spiritual Growth and change is not only possible it’s highly likely. When I started out on this journey I allowed myself to notice the traits in others that I liked and disliked. I always found that the traits that I didn’t care for in others (those traits that irritated me) were traits that I really didn’t like about myself. That’s a beginning step.